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middlegirl) wrote2010-12-11 09:27 pm
middlegirl) wrote2010-12-11 09:27 pm
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I have to go to a funeral tomorrow for an 11-year-old girl. Could there be anything suckier? (Speaking generally, of course. Having a funeral for your own 11-year-old girl - or anybody - is automatically suckier.)
It's going to be a little awkward, though, because I didn't know her at all - we'd only been introduced a time or two. Here's where it gets kind of complicated. My uncle's first wife divorced him and then married another guy, with whom she had two children. It was one of her younger daughters that died; my cousin's half-sister.
How do you prepare for this? Not just having to bury a middle schooler, but to attend the funeral? I haven't been to many funerals, but the ones I have been to have been for people I knew. Do you still wear black if you're not in mourning? I had thought of wearing Madeline's favorite color, but my cousin is understandably not answering Facebook right now. I had originally thought we shouldn't go, but Mom really wants to, and I do agree with supporting Amanda and her family. (The internet seems to agree with Mom: "Always go to the funeral.") But now I'm caught up in the minutiae of it all, as I'm very much into doing things properly, and I want to be respectful.
Maybe a simple blouse and pencil skirt. Can't go wrong with those. Unfortunately, I love to dress in bright colors and patterns - hardly anything in my closet is subdued - and none of those would be appropriate. Can anybody help?
It's going to be a little awkward, though, because I didn't know her at all - we'd only been introduced a time or two. Here's where it gets kind of complicated. My uncle's first wife divorced him and then married another guy, with whom she had two children. It was one of her younger daughters that died; my cousin's half-sister.
How do you prepare for this? Not just having to bury a middle schooler, but to attend the funeral? I haven't been to many funerals, but the ones I have been to have been for people I knew. Do you still wear black if you're not in mourning? I had thought of wearing Madeline's favorite color, but my cousin is understandably not answering Facebook right now. I had originally thought we shouldn't go, but Mom really wants to, and I do agree with supporting Amanda and her family. (The internet seems to agree with Mom: "Always go to the funeral.") But now I'm caught up in the minutiae of it all, as I'm very much into doing things properly, and I want to be respectful.
Maybe a simple blouse and pencil skirt. Can't go wrong with those. Unfortunately, I love to dress in bright colors and patterns - hardly anything in my closet is subdued - and none of those would be appropriate. Can anybody help?
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Thanks.